10 Coaching Tips For a Better Life

10 Coaching Tips For a Better Life

Psychotherapy through stories


I am a psychological coach. Through lectures and coaching, we meet diverse people of different ages, professions, educational backgrounds, genders, life experiences, and beliefs. They are people with different life spectrums. In the case of personal coaching, the issues at the beginning of coaching are all different. Relationships, difficulty controlling emotions, anxiety caused by an uncertain future, refusal to go to school, lethargy, and a decrease in self-esteem.

 “I want to find the real me. I don't know what I like. If you meet the real me, I will be happy. I don't know how to live well."

This is a part that appeals to high school students and young adults looking for their dreams and visions, as well as 3040 office workers and those who are about to retire from their 50s. How many people have become adults since they were born into the world and have never planned and executed something as they wished or desired? We live according to what we always have to do, and we live by choosing what looks good to others rather than choosing what we like. How could I have known who I am and what I like in a society where fulfilling one's needs is a sin and being forced to care for others before learning to love oneself?

The problem becomes even worse if you suddenly encounter a cliff or a cliff in your life of walking on stairs made by someone along a fixed rail. Several seasons pass and return again and again throughout our lives. In someone's life, spring can come in your 20s, 40s, or 50s. There will certainly be cases where cold weather lasts for a long time. If you continue to experience a desperate situation where you will not be able to escape even if you try to solve it yourself, your self-esteem tends to decrease.



'I am a useless person. I can't do anything. If someone knows this, it's over.'

The voices of self-confidence and criticism from the inside are getting louder, making it impossible to get stuck without anyone saying anything. We have to be courageous to ask questions. Instead of worrying about how to get out by focusing on the immediate problem, you should ask' why'.

“Why did this happen to me?”

“Why does this happen to me over and over again?”


When you start asking'why', the subject who can solve the problem recovers. If you're reading this now and you have a problem with persisting for a long time, I recommend you ask. Read the above question aloud. And answer. If you can't remember the answer, or if the word'I don't know' comes up first, ask persistently and ask again. Until an honest answer comes from your deep abyss.

Just by asking and answering like this, your eyes will come alive and your self-esteem will recover little by little. Then you naturally know how to solve it. You are the expert on your problems.


Coaching tips for a better life

Thinking about the unwanted experiences you are experiencing now, breathe in and out, and focus on it. And name it as you feel it. Give yourself a nickname that fits your experience perfectly. For example, if you are ‘whooping’ out of control without even attempting, and you are hurting your family, what would you like to give them a nickname? Anything is fine. You are more expert in yourself than anyone else in the world.

Now, if you've given a nickname, let's create a profile for it as if introducing a game character.

Introduction procedure and items

1. Express with pictures.
2. Nickname
3. Characteristics
4. Personality
5. Attributes
6. Influence on me
7. The situation that was the most problematic and the reason I think so
8. The way it swings my life (everything I have found)
9. What do you want, say, ask for?
10. What do I want from it?